How Gratitude for Problems Transforms Them
During the holiday season we’re reminded of all that we have to
be thankful for--our homes, family and friends; good food;
the beauty of nature; and, yes, even all of the material things.
My wish is that you and your family have all those things and
more to give thanks for this year.
Did you know that studies have documented the physical,
psychological and social benefits of gratitude?
Gratitude enhances your health and recovery from illness; it
is a springboard to wellness
Creates meaning, and brings harmony and happiness to your
Reduces anxiety and depression
your mind focused on positives
what you have into enough and more; what you put your
attention on expands
Strengthens your relationships
sense of the past; creates personal growth and peace
it easier to forgive
Appreciation for Problems?
It’s easy to express gratitude when things are
going well. Can you do so when you feel burdened with health,
weight, money, relationship, family and/or work problems?
Everyone experiences problems and challenges. They are a
catalyst urging you to change in order that you may experience
your life with greater happiness, peace, and well-being.
Difficulties have positive meaning and contain many gifts within
them. Discovering those gifts will elevate your life and cause
remarkable changes that positively transform your problems. It
is then that true gratitude is felt for those obstacles that
have hindered your health and happiness.
Authentic gratitude is more than an expression of
your mind. It is a spiritual quality and is felt deeply in your
heart. Simply saying the words has no meaning and does not
create magic. Find the deeper truth underneath your issues.
Instead of focusing on what is lacking, your
difficulties, challenges, or sickness, shift your attention to
what these things are attempting to teach you. It’s always about
change which requires taking some new actions.
Finding the personal gift in your struggles will
naturally bring you to a place of gratitude for them.
of Gratitude for Challenges (real people)
Phil was diagnosed with cancer and consulted with me for a
healing diet which he did implement.
After a few months his physician strongly advised surgery based
on the results of his medical tests. Phil was very negative
toward the physicians, and fearful of the surgery and medical
treatments. I reminded him that he agreed to the surgery and
going into it with fear and negativity would not bring the best
I coached him on focusing on gratitude for medical treatments
that would help him; for highly skilled physicians; a state of
the art medical facility; and for all of the loving support he
had from family and friends.
Together he and his family directed focused positive thoughts
and energy on all of these things for many weeks.
Imagine my surprise when, the day of the surgery, Phil called
to let me know that the surgery pre-testing showed enough
improvement that his physician decided surgery was no longer
warranted. He was on his way home. Yes, Phil was grateful he did
not need surgery and for all that he learned from his illness.
However, the more significant appreciation was two-fold:
first, the realization that any action taken from a negative,
fearful mindset will bring undesirable results. Second, he
learned to use the power of a focused mind to transform
situations in ways he could never have imagined. These are
skills he has committed to using for the rest of his life. He
also believed, as I do, that eating a regeneration diet helped
immensely. So many gifts!
Lois was constantly criticizing and mentally abusing herself for
being overweight. One day her cousin, Frank, called her fat.
Lois was furious. I reminded her that she frequently called
herself names and asked why she wasn’t upset with herself for
doing so. Frank was reflecting back to Lois what she needed to
change in order to lose weight, be healthy, and at peace. She
really got this and was truly grateful for Frank’s
cruel words. Why? Because it was the stimulus she needed to
treat herself in loving and kind ways mentally. Doing so allowed
the weight to come off far easier.
Connie’s money struggles had been a long term pattern. It caused
her to look within, and, with some help, realize the root of her
financial lack was from her feelings of personal lack; not good
enough, not smart enough, not enough is so many
ways. Her beliefs about herself manifested in lack of money,
close personal relationships; and fulfilling work.
I helped her shift her mindset to appreciation for her abundant
talents and skills; resourcefulness; the richness of her
humanity; and the multitude of goodness within her. She
genuinely felt this and was thankful for the money issues
which were a catalyst for increasing her self-esteem,
self-appreciation and confidence. As time went by her good
feelings about herself led to new actions that increased her
Greta was exhausted, overwhelmed, and unhappy. She did not have
the ability to say no to friends, family,
neighbors, and co-workers. She believed that she was the only
one to solve their problems. So she was taking on more work than
she could handle; was constantly taking actions to solve others’
problems; run their errands; cook their meals; and more.
Chronic illness set in and Greta was no longer able to be all
things to all people. While flat on her back she noticed that
others found solutions and their lives went on without her help.
Through self-reflection and inner work she realized that
believing she was the only answer for others was a control
issue. Also, she kept people small by doing everything for them.
She began to understand that life has a multitude
of answers to everyone’s problems. With holistic coaching and a
meditative focus, she began a simple practice of directing good
thoughts and energy to all people that their needs be met
trusting in life. She learned techniques for empowering others
to find their own solutions, and continues to deeply connect
with her inner wisdom for guidance. She was grateful she had
fallen ill. It caused her to shift to a Holistic view of
life that helped her make sense of her own and others'
challenges. And her health improved with her commitment to take
care of her own needs.
Examples of “outside the box”
grateful I’ve become aware of how my choices have
contributed to my problems.
I’m grateful that
person criticized me because it made aware of how I
criticize myself. (self-criticism always creates problems in
I’m grateful for
the health issue that led me to eat a health-supportive
diet; slow down, live a more balanced life, and explore new
paths that I may have previously resisted.
I’m grateful that
I recognized my mind is often stuck in the past with regret
or resentment; or projecting into the future with worry over
some imagined problems. (thoughts are self-creating)
I'm grateful that
difficult people have taught me to
set boundaries, and learn to communicate in kind, loving,
I'm grateful for the
realization that appreciating,
loving, and accepting who I am, and my life’s experiences
NOW is essential for living a healthy, prosperous life I
Ways to Foster Gratitude
End each day by
jotting down 3 things you are grateful for. I like to do
this in a journal and date the entries. Reading back over
them can be very uplifting in times of difficulty.
Write a letter
to yourself for all that you’ve been, and all that you are.
Life can be hard and you’ve likely come through some tough
challenges. Express appreciation for your perseverance,
resourcefulness, ability to take risks and make changes with
no guarantee of results. You’ve grown and changed in
positive ways. Reflect on this and thank yourself for the
efforts you’ve made.
Write letters of
gratitude to others. Let them know why you appreciate them.
Make this a regular practice.
Stretch yourself and regularly find reasons to appreciate
and be grateful for all that you are going through. When you
find the gifts within your problems a transformative
will keep you looking at the positives in your life. They will
increase your happiness and improve your health and longevity.
Gratitude for Problems
is one aspect of co-creating a happy, healthy, abundant life
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